Too many choices…..
Positive or negative, what do you choose? Mental health is huge. Both in life and sports, your mental health can play a huge role. It can keep you from reaching your goals in sports and keep you from maintaining healthy relationships in life.
It’s been almost a month since my last post and a ton of stuff has been going on….the Open started (you guys and girls are doing awesome!), my kid has been PR-ing like nobody’s business on her Olympic lifts, I’m finally making some gains on my shoulder to overhead lifts – thank goodness! But tons of personal stuff too. I’m trying to balance a full-time job that requires a 1 hour drive each way to get there and home, I’m back in college full-time (does anyone make textbooks on audio??? Because that would be super freaking awesome for my drive!), I’m still a mom and wife trying to run a household and workout 4-5 days a week. To say things are busy is an understatement.
Last Wednesday, March 5th was the first day of Lent. We are not über religious in that we attend church every weekend, but I have my own personal beliefs and decided to give up my personal Facebook page for Lent. Personally, I look at Lent as simplifying life and enjoying the simple things in life like sitting outdoors on a day filled with warmth and sunshine.
One of my aunt’s posted an article on FB before I gave it up, stating things people traditionally gave up for Lent, and the reasons one should choose to give up something (things that cause stress, make you angry, are bad for your health, etc.). I have never given anything up for Lent before and was skeptical on how it would go…..but to be honest, people on FB annoy the shit out of me, mainly the women, so I decided to give up FB.
Yes, I’m one of THOSE women. One of those women that does not particularly like many other women. The woman with mostly guy friends, the one that remains friends with all her ex’s, and can kick it with her husband and his friends on the regular.
I do not dislike women in general. I have some really great girlfriends – but they are few, and those women and I are super-duper tight – and I will back them til the day I die.
Here’s my one issue with most women – they whine and complain – A LOT!
I have ‘friends’ on Facebook that are mothers, sometimes to 3 or more kids, they constantly talk about how they never have anytime to clean, or cook – BUT they sure as shit have time to update their FB status 10 times a day.
Then there are the women that complain that they are pregnant and do not feel well – to that I also say STFU, there are numerous women that cannot even get pregnant, so stop whining that you are. No one wants to hear it, especially not 5 times a week!
On the other hand, I have a friend that lives up the street from us, she has four kids, makes time to take care of her household, goes running, etc. and I do not think I’ve ever heard her complain. Like EVER!!!! J.D. you are a pretty amazing woman.
Or my best friend, who had to uproot her family and move to Vermont of all places. Yes, it is beautiful. But the cold up there is no freaking joke. And through it all, she bites her tongue and waits. She knows that it is only temporary and a new day will come when she gets to move back to NC again. She is embracing the temporary suck to support her husband and making the most of it by snowshoeing, skiing her buns off, and learning to love a town with no Target, Walmart, or any other major chain store Americans are accustomed to.
Those are the women I admire and want in my life!
I get it, we all have our issues in life that suck, annoy us, we wish were different, etc. Life can be messy and complicated, yet great all at the same time. But do you really need to publicly complain on a daily basis? Oh, except November, because we all know the month of November those daily complainers will suddenly be thankful for everything in life…..in between complaint posts.
Maybe I look at things differently, but life happens whether we are ready for it or not. It is how you embrace the craziness that truly defines you as a person.
Apparently there is some new life coach guru out there, Tony Robbins. To this I laugh, very hard. But…but, but he is a life coach and will make you feel wonderful about yourself (said with an amazing amount of sarcasm). Because everyone should be able to pay $599-$2595 to be told, “You can do it!” If you really need someone to tell you that you are able to do something and do it successful – just watch this video over and over. It’s free and funny!
Here is my question to people who pay a life coach for a weekend seminar -
Once the money is paid and the weekend is over, what is the plan? When another one of life’s obstacles arrives, and it will, what is the next step? Do you suddenly have this amazing view on life after one weekend? Similar to how everyone is suddenly a professional exercise coach after one weekend? Or an Olympic lifting coach after a weekend certification?
Typically life doesn’t work that way. You go through life and either learn to live and love big, even through all the suck, or you decide to bury your head in a hole and pretend like the problems will just go away – even though they won’t/don’t.
I guess my point of this is, go through life and enjoy the ride. Accept the not so awesome things. Right now, this time of year, for the last couple of years, my husband is about 75% checked out. The other night we were talking about it, and he apologized. But I do not want an apology. For a couple of reasons, first and foremost – he is doing something he loves. If I cannot support him doing something he loves, then I suck at being a wife! Plain and simple. Plus – when we are 65 sitting in rocking chairs overlooking the ocean (yes, that shit is going to happen, Aaron Evans!) – we will be sitting back reminiscing on how crazy CrossFit was, how we got to experience things some people will never understand or be a part of. And while it was/is hard sometimes, they are amazing memories. I could not imagine being a part of anything else right now, we have a group of amazing athletes and I get to be married to my best friend and the number one programmer ;-)
Because these, my friends, are typical situations, in these typical times and we have too many choices. Make a conscious decision to choose positive and you will begin to see a lot of other positives begin to accumulate!
Sending out good vibrations and sweet sensations.